Recently, I had a session scheduled with a client for 8 p.m. Typically, this time has worked out well for me and for my family. However, on this particular night my toddler was not settling in for sleep. At 7:59 as I was trying to dial the phone, he came running out of his room. I reassured him that I was still close by but had promised to help someone that night and needed to honor that promise. He just started with small whimpers that I anticipated would grow into actual cries. I could feel the tension and almost panic creeping in as I began to frantically think through my options. My husband was out at work so I knew I was on my own.
Suddenly, I recognized how much I was striving in that moment. That's when I stopped for just a second and recognized that I had done everything I could possibly do to make the night calm for my son and to set myself up to be fully present for my client. All I could do was trust that the work I had put in so far would be sufficient for the outcome needed.
I ended up taking that client phone call from the hallway outside my toddler's bedroom. Sure I heard him singing to himself pretty loudly at one point, but he felt the security that he needed. At the end of the call, my client had a breakthrough in identifying her next action steps towards advancing her career goals, and as I hung up the phone, I realized that my toddler had fallen asleep at some point along the way.
When I stopped striving and trusted in the work and efforts that I had put forward, I began to thrive. That's true for so many of us, especially as working mothers. We find ourselves striving to be a great mom, a great wife, a great employee,. While I am a fan of continued growth and development, I also recognize the importance of pausing, taking stock of the work we have done to get to where we are, and simply trusting that these efforts will allow us thrive.
Lesley provides individualized coaching to professional moms who are seeking greater satisfaction in their careers. She helps working mothers uncover their God-given gifts, name their non-negotiable values, and align their career path with those gifts and values to have a greater impact on the world. Lesley has helped professional moms from many different fields, including IT, healthcare, and education. Access Lesley’s free self-assessment to determine how well you recognize and use your God-given gifts!