The workload seemed manageable…until I realized I was pregnant with my second child.
I had a toddler at home who needed a lot of my attention. Let’s face it – toddlers like to think they are pretty independent, but the reality is that they require a TON of help. It is a key age to teach them how to be a contributor to the family, and I love their innate desire to be helpful. Yet, it takes time, patience, and perseverance to be that teacher and to ultimately see those efforts pay off.
And to think that I was adding a newborn to this mix just made my head spin! Don’t get me wrong – I felt very blessed to have these two beautiful souls gifted to my care. But as a natural introvert I was struggling with how to balance my responsibilities at work managing a large team with my responsibilities at home. It felt like too much of me was going out, too much of my energy would be spent caring for others. I was worried that there would not be enough energy left for me.
I felt like I was at a critical point in my life and in my career. I had to determine how to move forward. Should I stay in this role with 19 direct reports while caring for 2 small kids at home? How would I manage it all? What would I have to compromise?
In this world we are told that Supermoms are capable of having it all. Yet, I intuitively knew I could not do it ALL. I had to define what was most important to me. Once I clearly stated what my priorities were both at work and at home, I had a clear path forward.
While I loved having a team, I realized that I could build additional skill sets as an individual contributor. So I made a lateral move that allowed me to gain experiences that have led me to the success I have achieved today. On the homefront I decided that my key priorities were clean clothes and food to eat.
Setting these priorities allowed me to redefine “having it all” to “having my all.”
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