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You can have healthy  boundaries at work!

You can have healthy boundaries at work!

Last week I started talking about healthy boundaries at work. It's fascinating how much easier we find it to build physical boundaries at home between us and our neighbors and yet how difficult it seems to establish boundaries within our careers.

So what do healthy boundaries look like? It really varies from one person to another.  What is acceptable and works for one person may look totally impossible for another. You really have to spend time identifying what your non-negotiables are. Non-negotiables are key to setting a healthy boundary with you and your work. Those non-negotiables are part of your core values. They are what is important and meaningful to you.

Some professionals are energized by being in the office environment while others feel stifled by it.  I recently worked with a professional mother who was locked into a role that required her to be in the office at her desk each day.  While the company she worked for is a well-known, employee-friendly one, the role was just not a good fit for her.  She needed autonomy and freedom within her day to structure her work.  Ultimately, she made the decision to move to another job that was a better fit for her and her non-negotiables at this point in her career.

Another professional I coached was seeking to build upon her past experience in sales.  She interviewed for a position that seemed ideal in the day-to-day responsibilities.  However, one of the requirements was a considerable amount of travel.  This professional mother still has a child at home and does not want to be on the road each week as she was in her earlier career life.  So while the opportunity looked like a great match in terms of expanding her experience, it crossed one of her boundaries regarding the amount of travel that she was willing to do currently.  Instead, she found a position that honored her boundaries while still giving her additional sales experience and is reaping the satisfaction and rewards of her work aligning with her core values.

So, what does this mean for you?  How can you adopt healthy boundaries with your work?  First, determine what your core values or non-negotiables are. Second, seek out the opportunity to make some adjustments within your current role to re-contract those boundaries.  If there is no opportunity for adjustments based on the needs of your current role, perhaps it is time to consider what your next steps will be so your career and your non-negotiables are more aligned.  It’s in this alignment that you will find greater satisfaction as you work to live rather than live to work.

 

Lesley provides individualized coaching to professional moms who are seeking greater satisfaction in their careers.  She helps working mothers uncover their God-given gifts, name their non-negotiable values, and align their career path with those gifts and values to have a greater impact on the world.  Access Lesley’s free self-assessment to determine how well you recognize and use your God-given gifts!

 

Uncovering Your God-given Gifts

Uncovering Your God-given Gifts

Have you ever heard the saying “peel back the onion”? If you have ever cut an onion, you know they are designed with one layer on top of another on top of another. When you first cut the top off and try to peel back that brown outer covering, you can see the number of layers it takes to get to the very center of the onion.

Uncovering your God-given gifts is very similar. It is a process of taking off the outer covering to go a level deeper. But often you need to go at least one or two more layers down before you really understand what that gift is.

One of my clients easily identified that customer relations is an area that she thoroughly enjoys.  However, she has struggled to identify a specific job that she would really enjoy performing.  It’s because her current understanding of her gifts is too broad.  In order for her to move forward, she must narrow in more on her gifts. She must be able to peel the onion back and go a few layers deeper to gain clarity on what it is about customer relations she really enjoys most. That insight will become part of her compass as she evaluates various positions to determine what would be the best fit with her gifts.

If you are trying to identify what you want to be when you “grow up”, try looking a layer to two deeper at your God-given gifts.  Gaining more clarity and specificity on your gifts will give you the insights you need to yield a more successful answer to the roles you should be considering for your long-term satisfaction and fulfillment in your career.

 

Lesley provides individualized coaching to professional moms who are seeking greater satisfaction in their careers.  She helps working mothers uncover their God-given gifts, name their non-negotiable values, and align their career path with those gifts and values to have a greater impact on the world.  Access Lesley’s free self-assessment to determine how well you recognize and use your God-given gifts!

 

How clear is your career vision?

How clear is your career vision?

I recently had eye appointment for my annual exam. I have worn glasses or contacts since the end of elementary school. In the past, every year when I would go in for my exam my eyesight would get a little worse each time. Even though for several years now my eyesight has remained at a constant prescription, I still go in with a bit of hesitancy around whether I will “pass” the test this year or not.

Over the past few years I finally realized that the doctor’s job was not to catch me doing something wrong but rather to help enhance my eyesight, give me a clear view of the world, and protect a valued resource. This year I was pleasantly surprised to find that my eyesight had gotten slightly better. We have made an adjustment to my prescription, and I am finding that my view is much more clear now.

My role as a career coach is similar to that of an optometrist. As a coach, I partner with professionals to identify what special gifts and talents they have and align those gifts with their work. My goal is to see professionals who have been asking “What do I want to be when I grow up?” answer that question with confidence and with great clarity.  Together, we hone in on the God-given gifts they possess and then map out how they will use those gifts to fulfill the mission they have been called to do in their work-life.

Are you living out your mission in life, or are you letting fear hold you back?  You only get one lifetime to make a difference in the world. Your time is now!

 

Access Lesley’s free self-assessment to determine how well you recognize and use your God-given gifts!

Regain Focus and Eliminate the Blur

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Regain Focus and Eliminate the Blur

My family had a couple of milestone moments this weekend.  My husband and I celebrated our 17th wedding anniversary, and my baby is now 1 1/2 years old!  So often I find myself saying to friends, "Time seems to go by so quickly." and "My kids are growing up way too fast." 

Do you remember when you were a kid and those special occasions seemed like they would never arrive?  Did you say "How much longer until my birthday?"  or "I can't wait until I go to college."?  I did!  And yet, there are days now that I want to freeze time, make it go a little slower.  I bet you do too (except when it’s not quite Friday yet and you are eager for the weekend!).

Life is racing past us like a competitor’s car on a racetrack.  At times I find myself so focused on the end of the race that I don’t pay attention to the actual drive.  Then, there are other times where I wish I could just stay in the pit stop and camp out for a while. 

What does the race look like in our career lives?  In the past mine looked a lot like a blur of activity as I was climbing a vertical ladder trying to reach a destination I had not defined yet.  It wasn’t until I took stock of what really mattered most to me in life – my faith, my family, and my freedom – that I realized I was living life for “tomorrow”.  And what agony that created, always longing for that point in time that was just out of reach. 

Once I allowed myself to be honest about what was important to me, life slowed down a little bit.  Rather than wishing time to scurry past so I could get to the next big project or the next role, I found myself enjoying most days for what they held in store for me. 

Time is still going a bit faster than I would like, especially as I look at my personal life.  However, I am grateful for the lessons I have learned along the way, for my understanding of what is important to me, and for the opportunity to shape my career to best use my gifts to serve those around me.

What step can you take to slow down the pace of life? How are aligning what is important to you with your career so you can enjoy every day more fully?

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